1.  “He should be nice to me because I’m nice to him.”

“Should” is a harmful word in this sentence because:

(  )  It implies that he is a horrible person.

(  )  It shows you expect to control him by what you do.

(  )  It hurts your feelings.

(  )  All of the above.

 

2.  “She made me slap her by calling me stupid.”

This is wrong because:

(  )  I have no right to hit someone for calling me a name.

(  )  I have control over my actions, not her.

(  )  Violence doesn’t solve problems.

(  )  All of the above.

 

3.  “The teacher is to blame because I failed his stupid class.”

(  )  Yes, because he’s boring.

(  )  No, because the girl next to me is the problem.

(  )  It doesn’t matter anyway.

(  )  None of the above

 

4.  “I must be loved by everyone.”

This statement gets us in trouble because…

(  )  It’s OK not to be loved if you love yourself.

(  )  There is too much love in the world.

(  )  You can force people to love you with gifts.

(  )  Love means nothing in tennis.

 

5.  “I must not make mistakes or do poorly.”

(  )  Mistakes just mean that I didn’t work hard enough.

(  )  I’m too stupid to do things right.

(  )  Doing things well feels good but making mistakes is human.

(  )  There is no excuse for messing up.

 

6.  “Everything must turn out just the way I want it to.”

(  )  Yes, because I’m the center of the universe!

(  )  People must act just the way I want them to or else they’re bad.

(  )  I’ve got to have control of other people.

(  )  I can’t control other people.

 

 

7.  One thing I take ownership for that I used to blame on someone else.

Example:  “I now take ownership for my grades when I used to blame teachers.

I now take ownership for  ________________ when I used to blame ______________.

 

8.  After reading the sentences below replace the following irresponsible, non-ownership words

(left column) with ownership words from the right-hand column.

 

I’ve got to get this job at BestBuy!

I can’t pass this class.

I must have a 3.00 grade average.

You are responsible for me getting into trouble, cutting was your idea.

She is the hottest girl in school.

I miss every stop light on the way to school every day.

I’ll try to stay sober this weekend.

 

(  ) Got to / Have to                                        A. I think / I believe / It looks to me

(  ) Can’t                                                       B.  I choose / I want

(  ) Must have                                                C.  Will or won’t (you choose)

(  ) We / you / they                                         D.  Some/many/most/a few

(  ) Is                                                            E.  It would be nice but I can live without it.

(  ) Every                                                       F.  I won’t / I choose not

(  ) Try                                                          G.  I / My