1.   Name one big thing that you want from your life:

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2.   What are you willing to give up getting what you want?

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3.   One effective way to get what you want is to help someone else get what they want…who might you help?              What help do they need to get what they want?

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4.   Power struggles often get in the way of getting what you want.  These are sometimes described as “Big me,

      little you” or “Little me, big you” conflicts.  Think of a time you used power to be the “Big” one in a situation.

 

      Describe it:

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5.   Now think of a time you were “Little” to someone else.  Describe it:

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6.   Now think of a situation in which you were an equal to someone else.  Describe that event and how you

      resolved

      the issue:

 

 

7.   For the following situations describe what might happen in a lose-lose situation and what a win-win would look

      like.

 

      Example:     You are going on a long vacation with your family.  Your best friend is without a car because

                        his is in the shop for extensive work.  You decide to loan him your car while you are gone.

 

      Lose-Lose:   He gets into an accident and totals your ride.  Your insurance does no cover it because his

                        license was suspended at the time.

 

      Win-Win:      He takes good care of your car, waxing it and keeping it purring like a kitten.  It runs much

                        better than if it had been stored some place and you storage fees.

 

  

      a.  You are failing your American Government class which is needed for graduation.  

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           Lose-Lose:

 

 

 

           Win-Win: 

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      b.  Your best friend feels the need to explore the “wild side” … He scores some ”killer smoke”  and demands

           that you join him in getting wasted.

 

           Lose-Lose:

 

 

 

          Win-Win: 

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      c.  Your boyfriend insists that if you love him you will sleep with him to prove it.  You do love him, but

           you are not ready to have sex with anyone.

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          Lose-Lose:

          Win-Win: 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

      d.  Your own situation (best if it is from your own life.)

 

          Lose-Lose:

 

 

 

 

         Win-Win: